As many of you know Mrs. ZM sells Pure Romance Products, if you are not aware Pure Romance is direct sales company in which consultants put on parties with hostesses to sell bath and beauty products as well as adult toys. My wife has enjoyed some very good success and has made many life long friends doing this business. One of the aspects of Pure Romance is bringing on new consultants into the business, who in turn recruit other women to sell the products, there are incentives for consultants to “add to their down line” as it were, in reality is no different than if you owned a franchise of restaurants but sold portions of that franchise to others, you would make money off of their efforts. I have watched her recruit women many times over the years only to have them back out because their significant other or their friends told them it was a bad idea. I have always told my wife that I wish I could address the spouses of these potential recruits in a straight up manner and also talk to the new recruits themselves to offer my insights into Pure Romance, no one ever asks me to so in the famous words of someone famous, my blog, my rules.

Husbands, and I am picking on the guys here, you really need to chill out regarding this new side job your wife or girlfriend wants to do. She is trying something new, something that is really scary, getting up in front of people to sell products and sex toys. Seriously the last thing she needs is you being negative. I can tell you that those first few parties will be really rough for her, she will feel like she can’t do this, her mentor will be there trying to coach her through it, but you can seriously do what we men should do, build her back up. When she gets going she is going to be gone a lot, parties take time, and the busiest nights are usually Fridays and Saturdays, which could mean you either have the house to yourself or you have babysitting duty, which sucks right up until she comes home after an awesome party with nine hundred bucks in sales or more, and I am not joking, all of a sudden that boat you want begins to look closer and closer. She needs you to help her lug her stuff to the car and back, maybe make a post office run now and then, if you really want to help; help her do her inventory sometime, for my wife and I it takes a half hour maybe an hour and she has a ton of stock on hand. Beyond the extra cash she will also start becoming more confident, a bit more assertive, and feel more alive, don’t ruin that for her. I will use my own example I have had major cancer surgery twice, been laid off several times since Mrs. ZM started doing this, for most people money would have gotten tight, for us, Mrs. ZM worked more parties, did online sales, and the end result we owe zero in medical bills, and all of our bills got paid, plus she and little ZM went to Disney World this spring, I can’t handle the trip in my physical condition just yet, but I did get to do a bunch of shooting .

Ladies let me offer you some advice from the husband of a very successful sales consultant. Take the time to talk to your mentor, she has gone through many of the pitfalls you are likely to encounter and will help you. This business is hard, you will face many instances that will drag you down, persistence is key, don’t let people talk you out of it, if you aren’t sure ask to shadow a consultant a few times, see for yourself before you commit to buying the kit. Remember that just like your full time job you need a work life balance, don’t get so bogged down into the business that you start to forget why you got into in the first place.

While I’m on a roll here, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends  seriously stop trying to talk your lady out of buying a toy, she isn’t replacing you, she’s augmenting the experience, think of like a turbo charger on a car it makes the ride better, that little device can’t replace all the things you can do, but it sure can get her in the mood quicker, or and I am not saying this happens, you have had a hard day and you leave her wanting more, that little toy can not only buy you time, but if you use it right give her one heck of an experience. trust me she is thinking about you. Some of the toys are for you, don’t let that bother you, ask a consultant about alternate uses for some of those devices, heck ask my wife ( www.pureromancebyanj.com ) she can walk you through several things that will drive your lady wild and will make you look like the alpha male you are.